DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have had many discussions regarding tattoos. She would say she wanted one; I’d disagree.

Well, just before her birthday she had her best friend, a tattoo artist, give her a small tattoo of a dragonfly with dots representing our four children. I didn’t know about it for about six weeks, until I walked up behind her at her computer desk and noticed it on her upper shoulder. Our kids knew and hadn’t said anything.

I got really mad and left the house for a while. When I returned and began arguing with her, she would say only that it was her body, and she would do whatever she wanted.
I have gotten over the tattoo part, but I haven’t forgotten about not knowing and how I finally found out. I am hurt that she didn’t tell me. She doesn’t think it’s worth apologizing for. It seems like everything she does now is one big secret. Please advise. — HURT TO THE BONE IN KENTUCKY