DEAR ABBY: I’m 15. I have dated since I was 12 but never told my parents and sort of went out of my way to hide it from them. I had sex when I was 13 but was always careful about using birth control. I’m on the pill and always use condoms.

I got pregnant anyway, five months ago. I always had irregular periods so I didn’t realize it until two months ago. The doctor told me I was having a girl. I was scared out of my mind, but I was planning to tell the father and my parents. Then early last month I got a terrible pain. I went to the clinic and had a miscarriage.

It will be a long time before I’m completely ready to deal with this, but I don’t know how to move on. I only told a couple of people, and none of them can ever know how I’m feeling. I can’t tell my parents, and I have no idea how to tell the father. Please help me. — LOST AND ALONE IN WISCONSIN