DEAR ABBY: When my husband and I married, I thought I had hit the jackpot in mothers-in-law. We were becoming friends, going shopping together, etc. Boy, was I wrong. Now, five years later, I can’t stand her. Just 15 minutes with her sends me over the edge. She’s rude, judgmental, and gossips like a teenager about everyone.

She put together a cookbook for me filled with my husband’s favorite recipes. Guess what? After trying half a dozen of them and failing at every one, I realized she had changed and added or omitted certain ingredients in every single one. When I asked about it, she told me she just wanted her son to prefer her cooking over mine.

Then there was the time she was baby-sitting and took our son to see Santa Claus for the very first time without asking or telling us. That’s an event parents want to be part of. I found out about it months later when I looked through her scrapbook.