DEAR ABBY: I’m a middle-aged, divorced man in a one-year relationship with a wonderful woman. “Alexis” is bright, pretty, fun, responsible, affectionate, and yes, I do love her. She also insists that I move in with her. She wants us to start our life together under one roof — hers.

I’m having a hard time with all of this — selling my home, selling most of my belongings, changing my work-from-home routine and giving up the independence of living alone with my mutts. Alexis still has a minor child at home, which is an issue because I feel I have “been there, done that.”

I don’t think the timing is right, and I have told her as much several times. But she’s soon back in “sell your house and move in” mode. Alexis is beginning to think I will never make the move. (She may be right.) I’ll probably lose her if I don’t give in. Any suggestions? — STAYING PUT IN OKLAHOMA